“Daughters will love as you do. Girls become lovers who turn into mothers. So mothers, be good to your daughters too.” Those are lyrics from John Mayer from his song called Daughters. This song speaks so many volumes, and this song is one that all daughters, mothers, and grandmothers should listen to.
Teach Her Your Mistakes So She Can Avoid Them
Teach your daughter your mistakes doesn’t have to stop when she doesn’t live with you anymore. Some of the greatest lessons mothers can give are when a child is on their own and they come to their mother for advice. Ideally, she can avoid the pitfalls that you had to go through, but sometimes making those mistakes is how she can learn to turn to you for advice. No mother wants their daughter to have to experience heartache even though sometimes it happens. Mothers have a substantial impact on their daughter’s life, and if a mistake you made when you were her age can be one that she can learn from, then you’ve done your job.
Let Her Know That She is Beautiful
With social media, people are popular by the number of followers they have on their page, and the number of likes and comments they have. Society says that women have to look a certain size and have a particular look in order to be accepted as beautiful. Why? Sometimes people can be cruel or maybe they’re going through their own problems. No matter what words are said to your granddaughter or daughter, let her know that she is beautiful. Teach her not to put up with others’ crap and to be strong in the face of adversity.
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It’s so important that you teach your daughters and granddaughters to remain active. Eating healthy and taking care of one’s body at any age is so vital. Teach by example by eating nutritious foods, and being physically active. Children and grandchildren of all ages pay attention to things like this. You can also use this as a way to strengthen relationships with your posterity by exercising with them, even simple things like family walks or going on a short bike ride can create wonderful memories. Also, children seeing a mother figure taking care of their body, especially later in life, can help build confidence and desire to take care of their bodies.
Have an open dialogue
Let her feel comfortable coming to you. If she can’t talk to you without feeling uncomfortable, then there’s a problem. Teach your daughter from a young age that no matter how old she gets she can still speak to you knowing that your relationship with her is an open dialogue. She may not need much help, or she might need a lot, but regardless of how much help she needs from you, she knows she can turn to you for anything at anytime. She will then teach this to her children, who may even turn to you for advice and help in times of need. And if you may not have the best relationship with your daughter, there’s no better chance than now. Sometimes rifts come up between family members, but it’s important to try your best to heal those rifts before they get worse.
Teach them Not to Put up With Others’ Crap
Teach your granddaughter she can have her own mind to say how she feels and doesn’t have to give in to other’s opinion just to be liked. When she encounters bullies at school, let her be able to stand up for herself and not put up with others’ crap. Also teach your daughters to allow their children to become strong and to learn how to solve things on their own instead of always stepping in and trying to solve things for them. You should talk about your mistakes to your daughters and granddaughters and let them know that all people make mistakes, and let them know what you wish you could have done, to try to inspire them to be more proactive and independent.
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